Honoring What I Love [With An Adjustment]

sunday slow down 2 I have a Kindle fire tablet that I’ve had since early 2012.Β  There are already a gazillion books on there but, honestly, I use it for games 80% of the time 😏

Recently when I asked my daughter whether she wanted ebook versions of the series she’s reading now she immediately responded with “No, I want to be able to smell them” πŸ˜„

The succinctness of her response made me take an honest look at what I have been denying myself ever since I came to Batam- the pleasure of my 1st love: real, physical books ❀️ It might seem silly but the feel of a real book in my hands just adds another level of pleasure to the reading experience.  I also do like burying my nose between the pages for a good whiff! 😘

But getting my hands on English books is costly as I’ll have to purchase them overseas. The bookstores in Batam only sell books/magazines in Indonesian.

A Concession

I examined my reading habits further and found out that I like to high-light when reading non-fiction.Β  And that it not only takes me longer to finish non-fiction because I take pauses to reflect on new ideas, but that I also enjoy re-reading them. Different ideas might find relevance at different times in my life.

Fiction on the other hand, is temporary entertainment, similar to movies.Β  I don’t underline passages in them, nor do I re-read them.

The path forward [to happiness] thus became clear to me: physical books for non-fiction, ebook versions for fiction 😁😁😁



The bonus to this is that now I can do book reviews/discussions again πŸ™ƒ I don’t enjoy reviewing fiction pretty much because it’s subjective, what’s good for me might be bad for you.Β  Non-fic however has practical application that someone, if not everyone, can relate to.

It’s gonna be fun πŸ€Έβ€πŸ€Έβ€

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I Should Be So Loki In Love

One of the things we resolved to do when we came back to Batam (from Melbourne) was to buy a dog.Β  We wanted to get serious about investing in our happiness (as a family) and all 3 of us agreed a dog was one of the best ways to go.

Meet the newest member of our family: 2 (almost 3) months old Loki ❀️


We got him a little over a week ago. My husband clearly wanted the show-off factor, so he went for a Siberian Husky.Β  Not that I’m complaining πŸ˜€ I’d be lying if I said Loki’s looks didn’t steal my heart.


That said, it did take me about 3-4 days to really take to him.Β  He’s so energetic, and not yet house-trained so he was (still is, but he’s somewhat identified his ‘corners’ now) doing his business everywhere around the house, aside from chewing and biting on anything that would catch his curiosity.

I’m almost 7 months preggers, so stooping down to clean after Loki was a source of stress. Even more so since I obsessed about my clean, shiny tile flooring, that now is rife with paw prints.


I wanted to return him to the pet shop (I know! πŸ˜”) except for the fact that if I had insisted on it I would have greatly disappointed my daughter and husband.Β  So I let go of my visions of perfectly shiny floors and a house that smelled clean and fresh 24/7 (well, we’re not exactly stinky either but when you get inside the door you’ll know there’s a dog in the house 😁).Β  My daughter also stepped up to help take care of Loki, which really impressed me.


I am genuinely very fond of Loki now and am glad I’ve come to my senses. I really do want my home to be a happy place and, for me, the warm welcome ofΒ  a wagging tail, a lolling tongue and wide, eager eyes support that goal much better than a bowl of goldfish πŸ˜‡

I’m not deluded either – I know this is just the beginning of a beautiful but rocky adventure.Β  After all, dogs have their own personalities, need a lot of patience and discipline and – Huskies are intelligent (not to mention, escape artists). But for now, our house is indeed a lot more cheerful with naughty Mr Poo-piddle running playfully around 😊

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Wiser And Braver For It: A Post-Melbourne Update (Part 2)


In part 1Β of this story I shared a bit of our (short) job hunting experience in Melbourne, and how I felt somewhat guilty watching my husband go through the process.

But this wasn’t the only reason I agreed to come back to Indonesia.Β  I had my own realizations too that allowed me to let go of my “anywhere but here (Batam)” mindset.

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It Makes Me Happy to See The Hubs Happy: A Post-Melbourne Update (Part 1)


Some of you might remember that we moved to Melbourne in December 2016 to ‘escape’ the boredom and confinement I felt in Indonesia. (That is not to say the entire Indonesian archipelago is boring, no.Β  I’m just talking about my small slice of Indonesia here, where there is virtually nothing ‘out there’ for expat trailing spouses to do).

Anyways, so off we went to Melbourne where I promised myself giddily I was never looking back.

But, less than 4 months later, here we are back in Batam! What happened?

Well, honestly? The erratic weather drove us crazy. We missed our friends.Β  We hated how dry our skin and scalp became. And we hated how the mere act of taking a shower became such a test of willpower.

Also …

Not Even Steve Jobs

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This Felt Appropriate …



found on Pinterest πŸ™‚

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A Poignant Loss, Something to be Happy About & Christmas Greetings

Howdy beautiful people! 😘 Did anyone out there miss me? πŸ˜‚

Our master bedroom is a huge mess right now. I am surrounded by scattered mountains of stuff that need to be packed into already burgeoning suitcases when ..

my eyes caught on my laptopΒ  πŸ‘€

And I just had to power it on because ~


I felt I needed to greet you a Merry Christmas & I of course sincerely wish you all the joy and warmth and happiness and blessings that the special season brings. Whoever you are, wherever you are, may the force be with you and yours always! πŸ’ πŸ’ πŸ’

A few updates …

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I Thought I Couldn’t Have Another Baby Anymore?!! πŸ™ƒ

Hello beautiful people! πŸ™‚ ❀

It’s been a while.

I’m pregnant you know. Yes, 9 weeks already (approximately).

Dan-dan-daaaaaaaan!!! πŸ€— πŸ€—

I had NO idea. At all!

First off, my fallopian tubes are blocked. When I had my daughter (B1 πŸ’—) my doctor already told me there was a dermoid cyst blocking my right. A few years ago I had myself checked [because we wanted another child and nothing was happening] and I was told then that both my tubes were blocked.

At the time I was already in my late 30’s, so I was really sad as you can imagine. I was advised to undergo an operation or an IVF if we really wanted another child but, since my husband was then already working abroad and I believed my age was against me, I let the idea go.

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