Share Your World

Share Your World – October 2, 2017

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Hello sexy people! ๐Ÿ˜Ž It’s Share Your World time again and … I might skip the next few after this as I’m expected to give birth this weekend ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค— Wish me luck and do send me your warmest, most positive vibes ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’“

If you were given the opportunity to ride in a helicopter would you go?

I’m scared of heights. But I did pay for a short helicopter ride when I was still single. I think I was still dating my husband then and you know how it goes, those love-hormones messing up with your brain like that … I even wanted to learn how to fly a plane at the time!!! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ Imagine that!

Anyhoot, the experience was absolutely exhilarating! It was one of those tiny choppers, seats 4 (maybe 5) including the pilot, and had glass walls (do you call them walls?). Imagine that! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

And now back to the question – no, I would not go. The love-hormones are in check now, thank you very much! ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

What are some of your favorite type of proteins to eat? (meat, seafood, eggs, soy, cheese, nuts)

Cheese all the way!ย ๐Ÿ’˜ Although right now this question makes me think of my terrible heartburn & indigestion. I like eggs as well but they too have been giving me heartburn and indigestion lately.

What would be your preference, awake before dawn, at dawn, or awake before noon?

Awake before dawn or at dawn. Early mornings are my absolute favorite part of the day ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week? ย Feel free to use a quote, a photo, a story, or even a combination.ย 

This video ๐Ÿ‘‡ Although it’s still quite early for me to worry about aging and how to cope with it, I do like to learn from those who’ve gone before me. However, the one thing that really stayed with me was her story about how, when she and her husband were out on a date, and they both saw this woman of about the same age as her sitting at the next table, she asked her husband if he found that woman to be attractive. And he said “yes”, because she’s (that woman) happy.

This blew my mind! Because yes, absolutely! You can be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if there’s no happiness in those eyes of yours, or if your “perfect” face and features look empty or cold or passive, then you’re not truly beautiful. You’re just nice to look at. So give me a happy person any time of day, she will always be radiant no matter what ๐Ÿ˜

Then there’s this blog post:

Boredom: It Takes You To Places

I mean, how this dude used boredom to develop a slew of impressive skills is absolutely motivating! I recommend you give it a read ๐Ÿ‘

~ oOo ~

So what are YOUR answers? Click the badge to join the fun!

~ oOo ~

 

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The Art Of Doing Things Just For The Sake Of Doing Them

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Yesterday I stumbled on a great think: I have to learn to do things just for the sake of doing them.

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I don’t do things just for their sake. I am such an auditor where expending time, effort & resources are concerned.

“Why go out with the ladies when there is nothing new to see?”

“Why crochet accessories for this house when we’re not staying here for long?”

“Why learn Indonesian when we’ll be moving to another country soon?”

“Why go out for coffee when I can brew my own and it’s too hot besides and etc, etc, etc”.

“Why buy those heels that make me feel like a million if I’m only going to wear it once?”

“Why do this when …?”

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This is perhaps something I learned during all those years working for large multinational companies – begin with the profitable end in mind. And it sure seems like I’ve gotten so good at this formula that I don’t know anymore how to just do something for the sake of it.

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There doesn’t have to be a strong, logical argument in favor of whatever that thing is in order for me to do it. I could just do it for its sake and be in the moment and allow myself to just relax and not be too analytical.

Granted, this “analytical” kind of thinking has its benefits. A good example is the decision I made to exercise at home, which has been far more effective than all those times I exercised at the gym combined.

But beyond this I really can’t see much advantage to adapting this kind of thinking as a default frame of mind. To the contrary, it robs me of the joy of the moment.

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So.

I think I should just do. Maybe reach out to the girls and go along on their “pointless” ๐Ÿ˜‡ ๐Ÿ˜‡ “jalan-jalan” and enjoy it? Of course, I won’t be doing it every day as they do (too much for this cheerful introvert!) but maybe I could do something with them every other week.ย  Or I could go with them and get that facial treatment they were raving about, never mind that I have my own facial spa equipment at home. (Yep, this spa equipment courtesy of my analytical thinking process again).

And I’m going to learn as much Indonesian as I can, even though I’ll probably forget most of it by this time next year.

And I’m gonna crochet whatever I feel like because it makes me happy and I can always give them away when the time comes.

Yeah.

I’m going to learn to enjoy doing just for the sake of it.

โค๏ธโ€ โค๏ธโ€ โค๏ธโ€

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Gettin’ Busy With It

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The good thing about sitting with boredom for a while and hearing what it has to say is that I always end up with a pretty bangin’ list of things to do or learn ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜

It’s not the exception this time, which is why I now have the appropriate reaction down pat – put all routines on hold, grab pen and paper and give boredom it’s airtime.

It’s a pretty long list usually as I don’t censor. I then give the list time to simmer and, sooner or later a few will hold my attention long enough to become goals ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜

And so, since it’s the first Monday of June — Happy 1st Monday of June to y’all!!! — I figured it would be the perfect day to announce my goals for the month ๐Ÿ™† ๐Ÿ™†

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I love having monthly goals โค โค They give focus and direction, as well as something to celebrate at the end of the month.ย  I picked 3 for June, and I feel that they give enough variety without necessarily diffusing my focus:

  1. Complete Introductory & Phase 1 Beginner of my Indonesian language lessons.

The fact that I haven’t seriously sunk my teeth into learning the Indonesian language is like a leaky faucet that’s keeping me up all night.ย  It’s about time I got it fixed! ๐Ÿ‘Š ๐Ÿ‘Š

ย  ย  ย  2.ย  Knit my first sweater.

I am still not over the fact that there are also circular needles and double pointed needles – I thought there was only those straight ones! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

โ€ฆ so from there you can imagine how lofty this goal actually is for me. But as I sat and learned how to knit-purl-knit-knit, I realized my truth: I came here for the sweaters!

So I’m just gonna dive right in and learn as I go along ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

ย ย ย ย ย  3.ย  Learn to make meatballs.

Just because ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿคฃ

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As you can see I’m very specific with all 3 so there’s no room for distraction.ย  And of course, to keep me accountable (and so we can have delicious chats), I’ll be blogging about my progress as I go along.

I’m actually pretty excited ๐Ÿ˜€ Wish me luck!

And now what are YOUR goals for June? ๐Ÿ™‚

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Today …

… I opened up some additional doors (creaky old ones I didn’t know could be opened any wider!)

โ€ฆ I did my yoga in another location (of the house)

โ€ฆ I did the laundry (all of it!)

โ€ฆ I cleaned up my online bookmarks

โ€ฆ I cleaned up my desktop

โ€ฆ I emptied my laptop’s recycle bin

โ€ฆ I cleaned up my email subscriptions

โ€ฆ I cleaned up my YouTube subscriptions

(MUAHAHAHAHAAAA!)

โ€ฆ I organized my underwear drawer (hello, pretties!)

โ€ฆ I organized my crochet WIPs

โ€ฆ I organized my small collection of ribbons

โ€ฆ I decided to throw away leftover yarn

โ€ฆ I did not put on music

โ€ฆ I wanted to listen to myself

Because last night I realized I will still be spending the next 7 months of 2016 here in my small, uneventful, unremarkable, beautiful but un-exciting corner of Indonesia.ย  Where I can’t even find English reading material. (Or have it shipped to me). There! I said it.

Oh. My. God. Look. At. Her. Butt.

โ€ฆ I also started a new daily habit: hair pulling.ย  Errr no, not hair pulling! Oil pulling. Oil. Using coconut oil.

โ€ฆ and then wrote frantically in my notebook.ย  Anything that came to mind.

Dear Lord.ย  I have to somehow find a way to make those 7 months count.

Bitch. Better. Have. My. Money.

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Now what shall I do tomorrow?

Fitness & Vanities

Why SAHMs Should Exercise ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿƒ

Several days ago I confessed to feeling bored and that, because I’m also a SAHM, this has triggered some sort of specific research into this notionย  of ‘housewife boredom’.

I’ve since discovered that housewives’ schedules run the gamut from not having enough time to even comb one’s hair to just twiddling thumbs until it’s time to prepare dinner o_O I found out as well that ‘housewife boredom’ also stems from a need to occupy time with something productive, challenging and self- nurturing โค

Every housewife will have her own preferred solution to this predicament, but one that I (and obviously a lot of other health and wellness proponents) strongly recommend is โญ exercise โญ โค

Exercise has given me a wealth of benefits, more so as a SAHM, and I cannot imagine life without it ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ Here are my reasons:

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  1. It gives you something to do โญ

If the lack of structure and/or the abundance of idle time is the culprit, then establishing a regular exercise schedule is a life-saver.ย  This solution is furthermore scalable in terms of time, effort and interest required:ย  you can join a gym, take a walk, jump rope at home, do 15 minutes of flexibility stretches in your PJs or start with a plank for 1 minute each day if this is all you can do.

ย ย ย ย ย  2.ย  It releases feel-good endorphins โญ

Being cooped up at home for most of the time and the lack of adult conversion can get us SAHMs into a funk o_O We therefore need a readily available source of feel-good hormones handy – exercise!ย  It’s not a secret how exercise can make you feel good.ย  Read more about this here, here and here.

ย ย ย ย ย  3.ย  It gives you confidence โญ

While I exercise I am constantly reminded of how awesome the human body is ๐Ÿ™‚ I appreciate my body all the more when I notice it is responding to all that strength training I am doing (hello, toned midsection!), how much more flexible I have become and how much longer I can do dance fitness videos.

As you get better at your choice of physical activity, you come to appreciate your body more and more and cannot help but feel gratitude and pride for everything it is doing and can do for you.

At appearance level, exercise will make you walk taller and straighter as lethargy will no longer weigh you down. In its place will be ease of movement and vitality.ย  And that’s confidence boosting. And sexy! ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜‰

ย ย ย ย ย  4.ย  It is self-nurturing.

Exercise time is ‘your time’.ย  It turns the focus back on us, we’re doing something for ourselves that will enhance the quality of our lives and by association, our family’s too.ย  It takes away stress and anxiety and puts sparkle and energy in its place.ย  That’s exciting, isn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚

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It’s actually quite easy to establish an exercise routine once you’ve set your mind to it.ย  My tips are – find something that you enjoy doing, start small, and do it at the same time each day.

Know that in the beginning your old self will do everything it can to stop you from doing it, and it is very good at doing so! o_O o_O But just remember that a few days is all it takes to change your internal dialogue and just 3 weeks to establish the habit.ย  Before you know it, you’ll be signing up for an organized run, or a Zumba master class! ๐Ÿ™‚

Now log off and go! ๐Ÿ’ƒโค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ’ƒ

The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Thank You For “Melting Down” With Me + What I Did To Acknowledge Your Kindness

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Dearest friends, welcome back into my living room โค If you want, I have some leftover Mother’s Day cake in the fridge, just let me know ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m brewing coffee I bought from Melbourne too so, we should all be set.

(Cold drinks are in the fridge, feel free to help yourself you know you’re very welcome to do so!) โค

This is a gratitude post for all your kind support, encouragement and โค to my meltdown post.ย  Every single one of your comments has lifted me up that I am walking around with swag and lightness ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

I do still intend to explore my ‘boredom’ further in upcoming posts. Right now though I feel a huge ‘thank you‘ is in order for reminding me that boredom happens, and that it is not a problem but rather a cosmic prodding. It is not a condition, it’s an opportunity.

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To acknowledge your kindness, I went out on a dinner date with my daughter ๐Ÿ™‚ Just the two of us, without my husband to translate.

Let me explain how this is a victory & celebration of sorts:

  1. The lay-out of this city necessitates a car of your own. My husband took ours to work so I had to choose public transport by way of a city bus or a taxi.ย  We preferred a taxi because city buses have certain routes I am not familiar with and I suspect nobody would understand a word coming out of my mouth. Taxi drivers would at least have some basic English under their belts.
  2. We still had to walk to someplace I was only half sure would have taxis. Luckily the sun was not as fierce anymore and we found a few available taxis right away.
  3. My daughter was worried about communicating and being understood. But I was cocky my pidgin Indonesian would suffice. And it did (somehow!) – I even managed to make the taxi driver laugh so hard (twice!) I thought he was going to have an asthma attack! XD XD

At the restaurant I was able to order, and order the right items. (In my experience so far it’s almost never a straightforward, point-to-a menu-item affair. The waitress will always have something to say whether it be the dish’ or a main ingredient’s unavailability, or how we want our drink or something about something — and stated in Indonesian that’s so fast I loll my tongue out and just pretend I’m dead) o_O o_O In any case …

My daughter’s fears were assuaged โค

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I assure you I ate with such gusto! This was a huge bowl and I wiped it clean XD For extra attitude I dunked all the tongue-numbing green chili they gave into the soup so nobody can ever accuse me of not knowing how to celebrate small victories ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜‰

Score! XD XD

And that is all for today ๐Ÿ™‚ Hugs!

The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Experiencing A Li’l Meltdown

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Dearest friends, have a seat, help yourself to some chips and wine and lend me your ear. I need to talk.

So as you probably know I just came back from a wonderful (say that aloud 3 times while doing a body roll!) week in Melbourne, and I had SO many things in mind to tell you. I was SO excited. I worried about the length of my post, and then how many posts I would make because one would surely not be enough.

But I was not prepared for what met me when I boarded a ferry – the final leg of our homeward journey – to Indonesia.

Boredom. It hit me hard, right smack in the face and chest. It made me feel angry, irritable, annoyed and in despair.ย  This demon is one I knew was already lurking in the shadows, just waiting for its chance to pounce on me. It finally did.

Yesterday was Mothers’ Day, but I found no relief nor solace in it. I had a fight with my significant other and even attempted to pick a fight with my daughter (I know, right?).ย  Thankfully, by the time the lights were turned off for sleep something made me Google “why are housewives bored”, and “how to avoid boredom as a SAHM”, and I read and read and am still reading and somehow all the information I gleaned has calmed me down significantly.

Okay. Exhale. I am not going crazy, and I certainly am not the only one to feel this way.

(What’s that? Oh of course you can have more wine and chips. Now pay attention).

When I say “bored”, it is not for the lack of things to do. It is rather how my life as a housewife has imitated that of a laundry cycle – wash, rinse, dry. Repeat.

Plus, and this is a big, fat, imposing “PLUS” – my social life is practically non-existent. I am boxed inside the house. Circumstances as well as personal preferences make it difficult, if not impossible, for me to cultivate a life outside the house.

My current world is very small.

And this is not healthy. Not healthy at all!

And it’s also very difficult to not have anyone to talk to. If you don’t want to sink any deeper you have to self-medicate. Which is what I’m doing via Google.ย  (And I am most definitely not talking about cyber flirting or affairs! It’s amazing what I found about this online supposedly as a panacea for bored housewives).

(Yes, of course you can take your shoes off & prop your feet up. Stop distracting me!).

The good thing about hitting rock bottom though is that it makes you face your demon. I mean really face it and see it and figure out how to either kick it hard in the gut or learn mad make-up skills to make it look better.

I don’t know if I can kick this demon hard enough to make it go away. But I also still have my wits about me enough to realize that I am in fact pretty lucky to not have to work.ย  And that I am not paralyzed by feelings of uselessness nor helpless.ย  And that I know where to find the sexy genie who can make it go away – she’s not in the bottle, she’s in the mirror.

How I wish it [ennui] would never come back indeed. But I know all of us, regardless of individual situations, yes even those who have demanding 9-5 jobs, must face the scourge of boredom from time to time.

(Pictures of Melbourne you say? Will you please focus?!)

Okay so I have already amassed a handful of ideas from all my reading about bored stay-at-home-wives/moms and, some have spoken to me. I’m making a list, checking it twice and planning my next moves. And do you have some ideas maybe, some tips? More wine or chips?

Okay then, we’ll talk about this some more soon. I just wanted to check in with you because I missed you too. And I already feel better just by putting this out there.

And I love you for listening โค โค โค