The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Another Reason I Feel Ambivalent About Social Media

So now that my friends are following me on my IG, I am reminded of one of the major reasons I quit Facebook many years ago – the feeling that I have to respond (at the very least “like”) their posts. (Which can be a total time-suck by the way, well, you know how it is).

Now I am in no way saying that my friends are requiring this of me, or at the very least, expecting this of me. The feeling of obligation is entirely mine. And I am quite good at dismissing it, actually.  But then another niggling thought surfaces: will my silence cost me likes and comments as well?

Aye, there’s the rub!

Because who among us doesn’t want that kind of support, encouragement and show of interest that comes from their likes & comments? It’s a wonderful feeling. Why deny yourself of that?

But the thing is, some of my friends like to stalk themselves (i.e. make a running commentary of their daily lives). There is nothing wrong with this, they are having fun and are not hurting anyone. But now, instead of seeing and being inspired by beautiful crochet masterpieces from the lovely creative people that I follow, I now see trivial, mundane photos of ordinary daily life. (Which, after a series of similar posts, ceases to be interesting to me, if I am to be completely honest).

To me this is a double-edged sword. On the one hand it feels wonderful to be among friends, on the other, it is a distraction. I find myself at times wanting to unfollow and feeling guilty (a bad friend) for having that thought. I yearn for the blissful peace that I once experienced when I was just putting myself out there to strangers – no expectations, no obligations. (I also kept myself distanced from the occasional skirmish that seems to be normal among housewives/girlfriends. They’re thankfully temporary, we get back to wearing identical tops soon enough 🤭)

I guess I am just weird / naive / stuck-up / stick-up-her-arse / being a snob like that 🤭😄

What are your thoughts about this kind of dilemma? Any tips for me?

 

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Feel-Good Fridays

Good Food, Fun Company & A Slice of Beautiful Indonesia

My ladies took me out to a corner of paradise again – delectable food, sassy friends, warm sunshine and vibrant colors all around.  I loved it! ❤

On the way to our chosen seafood restaurant …

on the way to restoWhich is of course by the water …

by the seaThe calm before the storm …

beforeI don’t know what they did to these crabs but they were delicious!

crabs

A word of advice when eating Indonesian food ~ despite the fact that it’s gonna burn your tongue, just have something at hand to wipe the snot & the sweat off XD Indo food is irresistibly delicious in an exotic, novel way. While I’m here I’ve made it a point to train my tongue to adjust to higher levels of spicy-ness because the ‘torture’ is worth it! 😀

And then there were the beckoning Riau Islands ….

Riau Island

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Riau~

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Have a wonderful weekend, WordPressers 🙂

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