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What one new thing (or two) are you excited to learn or explore in 2019? ๐Ÿ™‚ (We gotta keep levelling up, right?)

Howdy amazing folks! We are moving into the final month of the current year which … likely means that you’re giving a think about the year ahead, right? ๐Ÿ˜‰ And if you haven’t yet then I would love it if you used this prompt to do so ๐Ÿ˜€

So that up there is Question #4. Give it some thought and share your answer/s below so we can inspire each other with awesome ideas & positive intentions ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡ And don’t worry if it’s not final yet, we’re all entitled to brainstorm! ๐Ÿ˜€

~ My answers:

  1. ย crochet earrings
  2. crochet with beads
  3. creating “floor doilies” with t-shirt yarn
  4. crocheting owls
  5. macrame
  6. sewing – if my 1 year old will allow it

Okay that’s 6 instead of just one ๐Ÿ˜‚ but, except for #6, they’re all related so I think I can squeeze them all in in 2019.

What are your answers? ๐Ÿ˜€

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Staying Sane

Q&A Friday ๐Ÿ˜€

 

It’s been a while since I’ve had some sort of Q&A fun on this blog and I miss it. I always have fun answering those simple, get-to-know-yourself questions or self-reflection prompts and I bet many of you do too.

Hmmm, might even make it a regular Friday feature. (Or every other Friday? ๐Ÿค”) Well at the very least this I know for sure, there are 8 Fridays remaining of 2018 (including today) and we can do 8 questions, right? Let’s do that!

So lemme start with this week’s prompt — join me in the comments section, ok? ๐Ÿ˜€

Have you done anything [a bit] out of character lately? What was it and why.

My answer to this is a “yes”. And it was sharing my goals for next year with my friends. Why? Because I realized I needed “cheerleaders”.

~ oOo ~

I recently opened an Instagram account because I’m intending to sell my crochet/knitting next year. There are already a few posts of my creations on there and, of course, none of me [because it’s pure business]. I wasn’t planning on telling my friends about it because I’m afraid of what they might think (silly, right? ๐Ÿคญ). But when we had a group chat earlier this week I went ahead and announced it, even asked them to like every post and follow me ๐Ÿ˜

Originally I thought I could just tell casual acquaintances about my IG and let it grow organically, and then (maybe) tell my friends about it much later. I’ve always been like this. I don’t mean to be secretive, just that I don’t want attention at the start of something, when everything is “iffy”.

But lately I had a thought where I realized perhaps thinking this way is unfair. Perhaps in doing so I was instead cheating myself out of “cheerleaders”. And perhaps what I needed to think was that if any of them should think negatively, for me to not let it deter me.

I then thought back to times in my life when I had done something without talking to friends about it, and I realized a few wrong moves could have been avoided had I just done so.

To be totally honest with you, there was a full minute-and-a-half of internal struggle going on in my head before I finally told my friends about my IG. And right after that I went “whatdidIdowhatdidIdowhatdidIdooooo???“.ย  But now, I’m relaxed and feeling emboldened. Like, okay, now to give them a grrrrreat show! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

~ oOo ~

And that’s me. How about you? Fire up my comments section right away! ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡ I’ll be waiting ๐Ÿ™‚

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My Brain’s Abuzz With 2019

Blame it on the ambivalent & un-inspiring goals I set for myself in 2018 (though I can’t be too hard on myself, I had recently given birth you know ๐Ÿ˜Š), but my brain’s been abuzz with goals for 2019.

My episode of painful gastritis really did help me clarify things, one of them was realizing that I can’t really do “loose weight” as a goal again. I mean, yes, I could do with some weight loss, but I want this to be a side-effect of something bigger (and healthier!). Like fasting, because weight-loss is just one of the many effects of it and it isn’t even the best or most noteworthy.

Anyhow, I realized that I am galvanized into action by level-up goals that are fun and exciting but are also a bit scary and outside my comfort zone. I mean, I guess all of us are like this, no? In my case the more thought I gave to it the more it started to look like this:

goal: make life in Batam fun & engaging <- learn Indonesian <- make local friends (I only have fellow expat wives as friends so far) <- use my craft as a springboard <- sell my creations for fun <- learn all about social & online selling

Now this is really starting to look like a decent party ๐Ÿคฉ

Already, because these goals are that exciting to me, I’ve taken some relevant action. I got friendly with my next-door neighbor. Now at least I’m friendly with someone local and hopefully she knows of a church that has English service (next action item).

I also made good on something I’ve wanted for some time, a dedicated craft site (fifiandriri.com). I also opened an IG account to serve as a portfolio of my creations. I’m finishing up all my crochet/knitting WIP’s at the moment so that I can start clean asap, with an eye on social selling this time.

I’m reading up about the handmade business, and my brain is lit with ideas and more to-do’s like learning product photography and opening up an FB for biz account.

So exciting! ๐Ÿคช

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How is all this going to help me with learning Indonesian? Simple, language is best learned though interaction & immersion. I’ve tried cooping myself up indoors facing my computer, the results are minimal and I’m not having any fun at all while at it. So I need to be out there and talk!

And how is this gonna force me into loosing weight? Well, lemme tell ya: I love to crochet lacy pieces of clothing. Clothing need to be modeled by a real person. You do the rest of the math ๐Ÿ˜ย ๐Ÿ˜

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Not This Year

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When I was still climbing the career ladder I was a very goal oriented employee. I would reverse engineer the annual performance review by picking out in advance the areas I wanted to stand out in, and proceeded to take on the shiniest projects that would showcase my excellence in those areas.

I had this system so well down pat that when I became a housewife I experienced some sort of crisis. It felt like I was let loose all of a sudden and all that freedom was just confusing, I didn’t know what to do with it.

For maybe a year or two I had a notebook and pen and wrote down monthly goals such as “learn to cook 2 new recipes”, or “learn to knit beginner’s level”, or “lose X number of lbs”.

But there was no annual review to prepare for, no boss to wow, no gold stars to earn & show-off on my imaginary wall of fame that I slipped into nonchalance. I set vague goals that I forgot the following week. Or, I didn’t follow through, or I list so many that I overwhelm myself into catatonia all the while thinking that I have all the time in world to do them anyway.

Lately though I have become conscious of it and I do not like it. The more I think about it, the more it seems to me that I’m not even showing up for myself. I say I will do something but I don’t even honor my word.

So I went back to my notebook, looked at the goals I set for this year and decided to re-commit. It’s not yet too late, I can still hunker down and make a dash for the finish line.

My goals for this year were/are:

  1. ย lose post-pregnancy weight – but I didn’t specify how much and how to do it (because, who cares except me, right?)
  2. ย learn Indonesian – I bought an online course & some books that are now just gathering dust in some nondescript drawer
  3. start a separate blog dedicated to crafting – I did partially discuss this here, but I failed to clarify that I wanted a separate, topic specific blog because I want to do something with it later

I still wrote down a couple or 3 more but that’s just my sneaky brain trying to overwhelm me again and disperse my focus.

I am deciding to take deliberate action on these goals for the remaining 6 months so that at the end of 2018 I will have finished the things I set out to do. This matters because I don’t want to have to do them again next year, I want to create space for new goals in 2019.

And perhaps, even more importantly, I don’t want to excel at quitting, I want to excel at staying committed.

 

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Knitting

Adam Made It! ๐Ÿค—

It is now official, after the husband did a thorough fitting last night and did some muscle flexing in front of a mirror wearing Adam ๐Ÿ˜„ – I haz knit my second sweater! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

I haz conquered knitting (and seaming!) dark grey yarn, haz conquered working with snakelike implements of torment a.k.a. circular needles, conquered despair and the temptation to just give up and knit an entirely new and different pattern, and learned that maybe it’s wise to knit a size or 2 bigger than what the tape measure tells you to ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜‰

Continue reading “Adam Made It! ๐Ÿค—”

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So What Happened to Those Goals?

I don’t know if you even remember but I had 3 goals for June which I shared with you in this blogpost.

Did I slay them?

Weeeeell ….

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1.ย  Complete Introductory & Phase 1 Beginner of my Indonesian language lessons.

I made progress. (Promise, I did! ๐Ÿ˜‡) I finished all Introductory lessons and a good chunk of Phase 1 Beginner lessons. My vocabulary has increased, and my grasp of sentence construction has improved.

But!

Midway through, my brain just left the building (or my skull for that matter!) ๐Ÿ˜ฏ It just went “oh-kay, that’s enough!” and NO amount of prodding could revive the interest. So no, I did not hit this goal ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

2.ย  Knit my first sweater.

I also started real strong on this one. Take a look:

beginner knit sweater

And then I just went AWOL on her! Because I discovered something profound: I DON’T LIKE TO SEAM ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜•

Good heavens! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

I LOVE knitting. As a matter of fact, I’m almost done knitting the back portion of another sweater.

But I just don’t enjoy seaming! ๐Ÿ˜ฃ ๐Ÿ˜– ๐Ÿ˜ซ

3.ย  Learn to make meatballs.

We still have not found the kind of meat quality we really like. And when my daughter gave the thumbs up after my second try, I left it at that and stopped production ๐Ÿ˜”

Adventurous cooking is difficult when ingredients are hard to find and … I might have allowed myself to get a bit discouraged there. (sniffle, sniffle)

making meatballs

Heart to heart conclusion:

I’ve procrastinated for 13 days on this post because I didn’t earn my gold stars. (Did I ever tell you I’m a type A?๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ˜ต) And I’m gonna be honest with you – I did not enjoy June that much. When I look back it just feels like too much work and not enough fun. On some days it even felt like I was being chased by a mad dog! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ ๐Ÿ˜ฑ (I’m exaggerating here for dramatic effect).

I’ve always enjoyed setting goals though and this time, I guess there were just some un-anticipated obstacles. But I did make progress and, for lack of anything else to say, don’t worry about the sweater. I got A PLAN! ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

July is looking much better though ๐Ÿ’–ย ๐Ÿ’– (Yay!) Pilates, books, knitting and … NO pressure (body roll!! ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿคฃ)

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Gettin’ Busy With It

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The good thing about sitting with boredom for a while and hearing what it has to say is that I always end up with a pretty bangin’ list of things to do or learn ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜

It’s not the exception this time, which is why I now have the appropriate reaction down pat – put all routines on hold, grab pen and paper and give boredom it’s airtime.

It’s a pretty long list usually as I don’t censor. I then give the list time to simmer and, sooner or later a few will hold my attention long enough to become goals ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜

And so, since it’s the first Monday of June — Happy 1st Monday of June to y’all!!! — I figured it would be the perfect day to announce my goals for the month ๐Ÿ™† ๐Ÿ™†

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I love having monthly goals โค โค They give focus and direction, as well as something to celebrate at the end of the month.ย  I picked 3 for June, and I feel that they give enough variety without necessarily diffusing my focus:

  1. Complete Introductory & Phase 1 Beginner of my Indonesian language lessons.

The fact that I haven’t seriously sunk my teeth into learning the Indonesian language is like a leaky faucet that’s keeping me up all night.ย  It’s about time I got it fixed! ๐Ÿ‘Š ๐Ÿ‘Š

ย  ย  ย  2.ย  Knit my first sweater.

I am still not over the fact that there are also circular needles and double pointed needles – I thought there was only those straight ones! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

โ€ฆ so from there you can imagine how lofty this goal actually is for me. But as I sat and learned how to knit-purl-knit-knit, I realized my truth: I came here for the sweaters!

So I’m just gonna dive right in and learn as I go along ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

ย ย ย ย ย  3.ย  Learn to make meatballs.

Just because ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿคฃ

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As you can see I’m very specific with all 3 so there’s no room for distraction.ย  And of course, to keep me accountable (and so we can have delicious chats), I’ll be blogging about my progress as I go along.

I’m actually pretty excited ๐Ÿ˜€ Wish me luck!

And now what are YOUR goals for June? ๐Ÿ™‚