The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Providence Moved Already!

Hello sexy wordpressers! πŸ’—Β Rise and sparkle/smoulder! πŸ”…

I feel awesome this morning because I just finished a 30-minute HIIT and lower body strength combo workout and … it’s only 8AM πŸ˜€

So as I’m enjoying my morning cuppa, I am reflecting on the amazing fact that I am doing HIIT + strength workouts. It wasn’t too long ago when I truly thought I wouldn’t be able to do them again because … well because post baby I really had a hard time getting back into the workout zone. I tried several times, each time starting slow and having had to adjust my pace even lower … I tell you even a 20-min lower body Pilates workout would leave me sore for days. Pilates! 😭  (And my baby turns 2 this month 🀨).

β€œUntil one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

But now let’s talk about this post’s title because it really is amazing what happens when you articulate your goals. Here’s the backstoryΒ in case you guys are interested.

So after the said post/backstory I sat my lazy arse down and proceeded to crochet, unconsciously adopting the mindset that I was gonna start working on my goals in January (because I’m a perfectionist and I’m fond of clean starts).

But then I thought … but it’s only September! πŸ€”Β Why waste all that precious time? What can I do NOW to make sure I hit the ground running in January. (Because we all know there’s usually a lot of hemming and hawing at the start of something 😴).

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.

Soooo …

Goal #4 is to find an outside interest that I could do regularly at least once a week. Preferably with a good chance of socializing.

Well, 2 Sundays ago I [finally] found a good Christian church that we can attend every Sunday. They even have Bible study classes for kids in all ages πŸ˜€Β Score!!!!

Goal #3Β has something to do with my crochet & knitting hobby. It’s been a goal for almost a year now and I knew “something” was preventing me from moving forward.

Well, I finally understood what was standing in the way and it’s not what you think! πŸ€—Β But it’s a long story and it’s about my chosen artforms so I’ve decided to talk about it in a separate post.

And as for goal #1? Well, I seriously & excitedly believe that my (sudden comeback) ability to do higher intensity cardio & strength training will help me achieve this in time. Maybe I’ll talk about this in another post too because getting to this place has been a real journey that I struggled both physically and mentally with.

I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”

In any case sexy people, my message to you is this: start now. Don’t wait for January (but you can wait until Monday because I believe Mondays are perfect for starting something 😁 😁).

The start of something can be slow, filled with additional challenges & roadblocks that are usually unexpected and can undermine your efforts. I’m beginning to think it’s good to start something at the tail-end of the current year if you want to see real results by the following year. I don’t know 😏 maybe that’s just me πŸ€ͺ.Β  But sometimes we start something in January expecting to see results in March and are frustrated that we didn’t meet our deadline. I think it’s because starts can be messy and you just have to account for it depending on your goal.

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So okay, I’ve blabbed enough for today.

Thank you for visiting and reading and you can always give me warm fussy feelings by sharing your thoughts below πŸ‘‡

Have a sexy one! πŸ’‹

The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Goals, Gastritis & That Blog I Was Telling You About

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Hello my beautiful, awesome friends! It’s been a while. How ya’ll doin’? πŸ˜€

I’m here to share with you that I’ve done and am doing something I find truly exciting.

But before that, a backstory in the briefest way I can do it:

The last time we “talked” I was going on about these goals I had, right? And that I was working on them, but it was all feeling like an uphill climb. I knew something was amiss since I was really struggling with them.

So I had to stop and take stock. I dove into motivational material, listened to Jim Rohn, Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols and a bunch of life coaches on Podcasts and I realized the problem was that my goals just weren’t exciting.Β  There was no thunder and lightning at all. And they didn’t pull me out of my comfort zone in ways that energized me.

At about the same time I realized this I experienced gastritis along with the worst period pains E-VERR. It was absolute torture! But all the doctor said was …and you’re not gonna believe this, he said “just be happy”. Literally. I’m serious.

Now I totally believe in the mind-body connection, so I didn’t need to be told twice. I immediately improved the quality of the food I was eating, shifted to the kind of exercise my body truly enjoyed, tackled a couple of small but annoying things in my life, continued to feed my brain with motivational material, and allowed myself to just forget “those effing goals” for a while.

Just a few days into this routine I noticed that I could see better.Β  I’m like “why is the TV so much clearer all of a sudden?!”.Β  I also felt physically lighter. I can’t quite explain it but I was moving with more ease and fluidity and as though I had lost a ton of weight.Β  I was also in a more positive mindset.Β  My brain chatter was just … better…?Β  It’s like I gained some maturity, resilience, confidence & purposefulness all in one. So yes, improving your diet, exercising better and filling your brain with positive stuff makes all the difference in the world.

But the biggest take-away for me is really this: I created new goals and I made them genuinely relevant and scary-exciting.Β  I will be sharing more about them with you in upcoming posts but for now I would L❀️VE for you to head on over to fifiandriri.com and tell me what you think πŸ™‚

Thanks and, I’ll talk to you soon πŸ’‹

Monthly Reviews & Blog Updates, Staying Sane

The Awesome Month of April & The Marvelous Month of May

April. Gurrrl how fast you go! But you gave me some awesome victories that I am definitely grateful for:

πŸ‘‰πŸΌΒ  I sorted out my feelings about blogging and this blog. As a result, not only does this blog now enjoy a fresh “coat of paint”, but more importantly, I’m staying true to sharing about me and my life as it unfolds.

πŸ‘‰πŸΌΒ  I started on a path to beauty because I hit rock bottom on this matter. There was a time when I was younger when I didn’t care about my appearance, and I could get away with it. But now I need to swallow my pride and get help because, as a stay-at-home-mom and as I grow older, I’d rather be an inspiration than a warning 🀭

πŸ‘‰πŸΌΒ  I discovered a new & interesting author, understand Indonesia better, and no longer feel guilty for a few not-so-nice observations I’ve had about this country and its people (in general) because the author has actually observed the same! As they are fond of saying here “begitulah” (that’s just the way it is)!

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πŸ‘‰πŸΌ I had my first FO of the year 🀩

πŸ‘‰πŸΌ This month my husband went on his second overseas trip and I’m no longer panicky about it πŸ˜€ As a matter of fact, I kinda enjoy the change of atmosphere πŸ˜€ It’s not that I no longer worry about what to do & who to contact in the event something unforeseen happens. But I think it’s because I’ve been learning a bit more Indonesian lately and I’m exposed to more people as a result of my new hobby.

πŸ‘‰πŸΌ And lastly, I think it could be the start of the rainy season. Yay! It’s been raining the past few days and right about time too because the heat was sweltering. (When is it ever not sweltering hot over here, eh? 😜).

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And Now for Making May Marvelous

A lot of people have a monthly bucket list and I enjoy reading them. I do agree that it’s a wise & deliberate way to ensure time is well spent. I’m also an enthusiastic goal setter myself (ok, way too enthusiastic most times) although the implementation part is often a bit problematic 🀭

But anyways, in that spirit, here’s what’s on my May bucket list:

πŸ‘‰ πŸ‘‰ Stay away from anything crochet (or knitting) 😁

I just thought it’d be cool to give something I’m obsessed with a break and see what rushes in to fill the void. I’m considering the following in its place:

πŸ’„Β  read a book, maybe 2

πŸ’„Β  learn a new recipe, maybe 2

πŸ’„Β  craft something out of paper, maybe 2

πŸ’„Β  have coffee with a friend, maybe 2

πŸ’„Β  celebrate Mother’s Day in a positive way

πŸ’„Β  buy a doll

 

Now on to YOU:

What are some of your April highlights? Looking forward to something special in May? Do share! 😊

Staying Sane

What Could You Buy That Could Help You Make the Most of Where You Live?

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Author Melody Warnick asks a very smart question that immediately resonated with me:

~ What could you buy (or borrow or rent) that would help you make the most of where you live? ~

For me the answer is the 2 outdoor chairs that you see in the above photo 😊

I make no secret about the fact that I LOOOOVE to spend time under the wide open sky in the evenings. I used to just stand or walk in circles looking up at the wide, astoundingly beautiful night sky, say my prayers and feel grateful & content. Evenings are usually cool and breezy making the personal time even more pleasant.

A few weeks ago I had the brilliant idea to buy those chairs and, now my evening musings are even that much more delicious πŸ’– At times my husband joins me, at times my eldest, but mostly I’m alone.Β  And sometimes, in the late afternoons, I also do my crochet outside thanks to these inexpensive chairs.

How about you? What’s your answer to the question? πŸ™‚

 

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Everytime I Think of Quitting This Blog I Get A Like Or A New Follower

I’m going to be honest with you guys, since the start of this year I have felt disconnected from this blog and have thought many serious times about stopping and starting a new one. The new one would be more in step with what my current interests are and who I feel I have become.

3 years ago I was busy climbing the corporate ladder. I was independent, assertive, driven. Now, I am a full-time housewife on foreign soil. This blog talks about those 3 years of struggling to find my balance.

I now understand why they say that in order to be successful in blogging you have to have a niche, or a specific subject matter. If you blog about yourself/your life, the blog must evolve with you. And, well … I’m having trouble with this because it just seems so cluttered and messy, direction-less. I drool over blogs that are able to identify their topic of interest and blog about nothing but.

But every time I think of quitting I get a like. Or a follow. And my heart does a happy dance. Because no matter how hard I try to not let it matter, every like and new subscriber makes me proud and happy.

So I don’t know. I’ve read other bloggers who’ve come to this juncture in their blogging journey as well. I don’t know what they do. I don’t know what to do.

What would you do?

Share Your World

Share Your World – September 18, 2017

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I love this week’s SYW questions ❀️ Here we go:

Complete this sentence: I want to learn more about …

  • Aromatherapy and how I can use it at home. I’ve already finished an online course but it seemed to have just skimmed the surface.
  • Gardening, particularly container gardening, taking care of flowering plants, herbs. And by extension, making terrariums. One at a time of course πŸ˜„
  • Photography. I’ve put this off for ages and ages now. This one’s probably for next year considering I’m about to give birth.
  • Cooking/expanding my culinary repertoire. I’m afraid this one’s reached emergency status now.Β  I keep cooking the same 5 or so recipes and relying on take-outs for variety.Β  (My family’s been very forgiving because I’m pregnant and all). Then I got really bored with my recipes and my yen for cooking just went out the window as a result. So I’m seriously thinking about this and WILL BUY AN OVEN. Because, can you believe it? I’ve NEVER even owned an oven in my entire life! 😱😱😱
  • Close on the heels of previous bullet point – baking!
  • Crochet – Filet, Irish, tapestry, thread, and creating warm weather garments.
  • The Indonesian language. I’m gonna give birth any time now and perhaps the only word of relevance that I understand is “dorong” (“push”) πŸ˜…. I also took an online course for this – which was actuallyΒ  pretty good – but the problem is the retention. I’ve since observed that I retain more if I learn the words that I need at the moment – like when I have to ask the housekeeper to do something. My brain just won’t give space to something I don’t need. In addition, there’s a notable difference between the Indonesian you learn formally vs. the Indonesian actually spoken.Β  Another reason I prefer to learn from the housekeeper 😁
  • Basic sewing. So I can make my own sassy pillowcases & curtains and anything else that’s just a rectangular piece of fabric with just a little embellishment ❀️❀️

On a vacation what would you require in any place that you sleep?

Comfortable bed & temperature. No noise. No lights. No unpleasant smells.

What is your greatest extravagance?

Online shopping and having it shipped via DHLπŸ“¦πŸ“¦. Although this one’s straddling the fence between extravagance and necessity because this has to do with our present location.

For instance, when shopping for clothes, my 10 y.o. daughter has to look in the adults section already. Never mind me and my husband. Finding comfortable footwear is difficult at best, so we’ve taken to buying ours in Singapore. Last night we couldn’t find self-rising flour in the grocery department of their biggest, most recognized as high-end, mall. I mean, maybe they ran out of it but that’s my point, there’s not one single place where you can safely say they have everything, sometimes you have to explore other stores in search of an item and even then it’s hit and miss.

There are no English books here so I have to have them shipped from Amazon/Book Depository. I buy our supplements online as well, all the maternity clothes I’m wearing ….

What inspired you this past week? Β Feel free to use a quote, a photo, a story, or even a combination.Β 

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I wish I’d bookmarked it! It was an article from a homemaking blog that talked about the reasons why the author makes herself up even when she’s just at home for days on end. That piece really spoke to me because I have been wallowing in frumpsville for the longest time now – thank goodness nobody from my previous corporate life can see me! 🀣

She made all the right arguments, including the very true fact that it sets a positive tone for the day and makes you more productive.

So now I take my showers in the morning before breakfast, get out of my sleeping clothes into nice daytime wear, swap my glasses for contacts, fix my hair, wear liner, lipstick, earrings and perfume 😁😁😁

Well, that last part might be overkill but then again, why not? 😘

 

Now give me YOUR answers! πŸ˜€ Comment below or just click the badge to join the fun.

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