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Share Your World 2016 #37


Hey guys! How are ya? โค ๐Ÿ˜€ Things are settling pretty well in the new house and you and I should chat about this sometime soon, yes?ย  I’ve found my mouse – yay! XD But we’re switching internet providers since the current one’s not very reliable so, this week will just be another lone blog post by way of Cee’s Share Your World weekly challenge.

With your answers, please remember we are in the SYW world which may not always match our reality.

Have you ever owned a rock, pet rock, or gem that is not jewelry?

Hmmm …. I don’t think so. I had a rock that was engraved with the word “strength” before but I was using it as a key chain.

By the way, the notion of having a rock as a pet strikes me as a bit odd. I know some people collect rocks but I can’t see how something inanimate could be considered a ‘pet’. I need to study up on this ๐Ÿ™‚

What is your greatest strength or weakness?

Oh dear, I’m drawing a blank on this one … hmmmmkay: I’m a type A+ perfectionist so I do not know my strengths (may have to ask the husband later ๐Ÿ˜) because I tend to focus on my weakness instead. (And the perfectionist me says I have many!) o_O o_O

Also it’s been a while since I applied for a job so I no longer have a canned answer for this one XD XD

Seriously though, here’s one I want to change – I really want to stop reacting to an emergency (or anything unexpected for that matter) with panic. I hate it! ๐Ÿ˜ง Granted, I don’t run around screaming and waving my hands in the air but my mouth might betray me if I’m not careful ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

The thing is, panicking is not helpful. If any, it curtails rational and creative thinking and makes the problem look worse than it actually is. So I would like to be able to stay calm and NOT think that the world is ending ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

Any tips?

What makes you feel grounded?ย 

I’ve been feeling a lot more grounded ever since my family has been together. I’ve settled comfortably into the role of SAHM (I honestly love it!) and, at this point, am able to receive and enjoy the support of my husband without feeling insecure about my worth as a human being. (You know, I used to be an independent, self-supporting, head-strong, career ladder climbing “Super Woman” in my previous life ๐Ÿ˜›).

My Bible study and devotionals, a relatively recent addition to my definition of a perfect day, also helps me greatly in this area.

Would you rather never be able to eat warm food or never be able to eat cold food?

Easy! I’d give up cold food in an instant. My stomach just cannot get satisfaction from a cold meal ๐Ÿœ ๐Ÿฒ ๐Ÿณ

Bonus question: ย What are you grateful for from last week ~

Our new study room with it’s beautiful balcony ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ(See picture above)

~ and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?ย 

Being able to make my own chicken nuggets. (It’s a feat you know, from someone who never even liked venturing into the kitchen ๐Ÿ˜ I’ve certainly come a LOOONG way, dahling!)

Now what are YOUR answers?! I’d love to read them in the comment section below ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ

Have a wonderful, blessed weekend everyone! ใƒ„

~ oOo ~

~ oOo ~

The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

Praying About It

SalsaNowhere in my entire life is the adage of blooming where you are planted more challenged (or taunting) than in my present circumstances.

First, there is the double-edged sword of time freedom-in-abundance. I am a housewife with no small children to look after. And thanks to 2 wonderful housekeepers (included in the husband’s expat package) who come to the house every morning to do majority of the housework, I lift my fingers only quite sparsely – to load the laundry and hang it to dry, wash dishes and cook dinner.

Boy, am I lucky! So much time to explore the world, no?

However, there is a downside to my current situation. I am in a foreign, non-English speaking country. In a small, relatively young city that has yet very little to no options for entertainment and/or socializing (especially for foreign SAHMs). That little possibility that something worthwhile might be out there to explore comes with the hurdle of having to learn a new, very alien sounding language.

And I tried.ย  But without the opportunity to immerse, I retain only the basics and my frustration. Or let me correct myself, I have found nothing out there (that does not require traveling far) that is worth getting fluent with the language over. Now don’t get me wrong, learning a new language is a boon in itself. But for me, there just has to be another incentive on top of that.

Hence I remain a couch explorer of the internet and of the antics ofย  my own mind.

So now husband and I have decided to move to an English-speaking metropolitan city in December. (Our own decision, not tied to his job). Every atom is my body rejoices at the prospect. Libraries, museums, farmers markets, coffee shops, parks, cheesecake, oh my! And no more people running away from me in department stores because I am a bule.

But my husband’s boss apparently values the husband so much that he is coming up with all sorts of offerings of promotions and bonuses and of moving heaven and earth. Last week there was the offer to arrange a job for the husband in Germany, then last night there was an email that a post would be opened for him in Hungary.

I don’t blame the husband for feeling like the biggest rockstar since sliced bread. (That’s a double whammy for you in the interest of emphasis).


But the honest truth is that I don’t want to be uprooted any longer! (Stamps feet heavily to emphasize).

I want to build a HOME already!

This is beyond boredom or merely keeping myself occupied.

I want to take root!

And for me this means finally settling someplace where we can be together and where the 3 of us, not just my husband, will have opportunities and we can finally build a community. (And besides, news coverage has me questioning the safety of Europe at the moment).


But December is still about 4 months away and I can only “pressure” the husband so much.

And I did decide to be a trailing spouse. Although right now it sucks.

So I’m sitting here ranting to y’all and feeling the urge to splurge on yarn. Mountains of yarn. Warehouses of yarn! Ocean liners of yarn! (There, let the company you work for pay for that husband! Oh and I want unlimited supply of extra virgin coconut oil too! MUAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!!!).

So I don’t know. Maybe I will learn masonry.


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Share Your World 2016 #29

What is the perfect pizza?

One that’s still piping hot! ๐Ÿ˜‹ And with extra cheese pleese! ๐Ÿ˜‹ ๐Ÿ˜‹ ๐Ÿ˜‹

What is your favorite time of day?

It used to be early morning but lately I’ve developed amnesia err … insomnia which renders me groggy-like-I’ve-been-hit-by-a-bus whenever I wake up to brew my magic elixir.

I still like mornings in general though because that’s when I get my workouts done and mid-day here in Indonesia is sometimes just too hot to do anything but take a siesta or lock yourself in an airconditioned room reading free Kindle ebooks.ย  (My that was a long sentence! ๐Ÿ˜„ ๐Ÿ˜„ ๐Ÿ˜„)

Show us two of your favorites photographs? ย The photos can be from anytime in your life span. ย Explain why they are your favorite.

Errr … I need more time to decide on this! ๐Ÿ˜ฑย ๐Ÿ˜ฑย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Complete this sentence: ย Iโ€™m looking forward toโ€ฆ.ย 

December 2016. By then we’ll be moving someplace else and I’m just so excited ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿป

Bonus question: ย What are you grateful for from last week ~

I am grateful for 2 things mostly:

โญ I’m grateful for finding happiness in cooking ๐Ÿ˜Š And this really means I’ve come a looong way in this domestic adventure of mine. About a year ago I couldn’t even see myself cooking – if you’d have asked me to boil water in a saucepan then I’d have burnt that too ๐Ÿ˜ฑ I’m serious! I was just never interested in cooking and so developed some kind of fear induced awe (and apathy) towards it.

Well not anymore! ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š At this point I’m past the oh-so-this-is-how-you-hold-a-knife-correctly stage and have transcended into the what-else-could-I-try-cooking plane. I have begun to receive requests from my husband and mini me and even my “experiments” have had more hits than misses lately. It’s fun! ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š

โญ I’m grateful for reaching out to an estranged friend and enjoying the friendship once again. We had a falling out a few months ago and I honestly thought I could do without the friendship. I was sorely mistaken there – it just added to the depression I often feel when I crave the feeling of home.

So I’m glad we’re good again. There’s still some apprehension because we haven’t even discussed what went wrong in the first place. But we’re back to exchanging snippets of our lives and that gives me additional ammo against the blues.ย  (I take whatever I can!) ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š

and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?ย 

I don’t know yet, lately I’ve been feeling disengaged from the usual things I used to occupy my time with (as you might have noticed from the long silences in between blog posts โœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿฟ โœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿฟ). I think I’m just taking a break of sorts. I’m reading books and allowing myself to be sucked into time-consuming (but very engaging) games and I’m just not analyzing it too much ๐Ÿ›€

Oh but maybe I can get myself to start a walking/running program. I really want to do this and I think it’s just my perfectionist attitude that’s getting in the way again ๐Ÿ˜” I always want to do an exercise every weekday without fail and get discouraged when I can’t. Right now though I’m contemplating maybe just 2 days of being out under open skies would be a great start ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

Okay, now what are โญ YOUR โญ answers? ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

~ oOo~

Fondly written for:

๐Ÿ’– ๐Ÿ’– ๐Ÿ’–

~ oOo ~

Have a wonderful weekend everyone!ย  ๐Ÿ’‹ ๐Ÿ˜€

Disclaimer: all images found on Google.

The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

The Art Of Doing Things Just For The Sake Of Doing Them


Yesterday I stumbled on a great think: I have to learn to do things just for the sake of doing them.

๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

I don’t do things just for their sake. I am such an auditor where expending time, effort & resources are concerned.

“Why go out with the ladies when there is nothing new to see?”

“Why crochet accessories for this house when we’re not staying here for long?”

“Why learn Indonesian when we’ll be moving to another country soon?”

“Why go out for coffee when I can brew my own and it’s too hot besides and etc, etc, etc”.

“Why buy those heels that make me feel like a million if I’m only going to wear it once?”

“Why do this when …?”

๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜ย ๐Ÿ˜

This is perhaps something I learned during all those years working for large multinational companies – begin with the profitable end in mind. And it sure seems like I’ve gotten so good at this formula that I don’t know anymore how to just do something for the sake of it.


There doesn’t have to be a strong, logical argument in favor of whatever that thing is in order for me to do it. I could just do it for its sake and be in the moment and allow myself to just relax and not be too analytical.

Granted, this “analytical” kind of thinking has its benefits. A good example is the decision I made to exercise at home, which has been far more effective than all those times I exercised at the gym combined.

But beyond this I really can’t see much advantage to adapting this kind of thinking as a default frame of mind. To the contrary, it robs me of the joy of the moment.

๐Ÿ‘€ ๐Ÿ‘€ ๐Ÿ‘€


I think I should just do. Maybe reach out to the girls and go along on their “pointless” ๐Ÿ˜‡ ๐Ÿ˜‡ “jalan-jalan” and enjoy it? Of course, I won’t be doing it every day as they do (too much for this cheerful introvert!) but maybe I could do something with them every other week.ย  Or I could go with them and get that facial treatment they were raving about, never mind that I have my own facial spa equipment at home. (Yep, this spa equipment courtesy of my analytical thinking process again).

And I’m going to learn as much Indonesian as I can, even though I’ll probably forget most of it by this time next year.

And I’m gonna crochet whatever I feel like because it makes me happy and I can always give them away when the time comes.


I’m going to learn to enjoy doing just for the sake of it.

โค๏ธโ€ โค๏ธโ€ โค๏ธโ€

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Ending May On A Happy Note ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

2c38b551b0b6670461009670874dbf4fHello e’rrbody! How have you been? ๐Ÿ˜€ โค

I’ve been deliciously busy last week, just plunged the depths of my interests and curiosities in the face of my “boredom” problem which is now but a pathetic & cowering shadow dragging its feet towards the gates of oblivion.

My! How dramatic. XD XD

Today, I chose to close May with a list of things that make me happy.ย  And I have to thank the radiant Lindsay over at the always insightful Letters to Dutch for happiness-tagging me ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

I was so excited when I got the tag because, who doesn’t want to make a list of things that make you happy?! I mean, that has got to be the single most simple, thoughtful, cost-free and happiness-inducing act you can do for yourself, yes?ย  ๐Ÿ˜€

I was also happy because I really want to share with you a personal story. Something I did when I first started out in the corporate world, in a big city full of strangers, that was telling of the attitude towards happiness I’d soon come to embrace.

Ready? ๐Ÿ™‚


The Story

It was a huge job in a huge city away from home.ย  I was new, I still had no friends and, Valentine’s day was coming up.ย  I don’t know why but all the single ladies in that office made such a big deal out of it.ย  Talking loudly about their guesses and fantasies about how their boyfriends would surprise them, fancy dinners, gifts, etc.ย  I’d hear them and swallow saliva because I already felt so lonely and uprooted, and now I’d have to be pitied for not having romantic liaisons too???

Que barbaridad! ๐Ÿ˜  ๐Ÿ˜ 

My agony grew as Valentine’s day drew nearer.

But then a miracle happened. ๐ŸŒŸ ๐Ÿ’ซ โœจ

On that Valentine’s day I walked away with the hugest, most impressively arranged (and probably the most expensive) bouquet of veeery pretty flowers.

And I lived happily ever after was beset with inquiries from curious (nosy) ladies for days after! XD XD

How did that happen?

Well, I bought myself that bouquet and told everybody it came from a “secret admirer”. End of agony. XD XD


And that was perhaps the first time I realized that happiness is something you engineer for yourself.

Granted, my example is petty and simplistic. But I know now that happiness doesn’t have to be complicated or profound.

This phrase “happiness is something you engineer for yourself” is not mine by the way. I came across it reading blogs on WP and the blog author was an engineer (not surprisingly). I can no longer recall who this person was, but I thank him and give him credit for something so simple yet profound. Note the use of the word “engineer”, because indeed, happiness does not fall out of the sky and most of the time, circumstances do not cooperate.

Shine anyway! ๐ŸŒŸ ๐Ÿ’ซ โœจ

There are SO many things that make me happy – from the obvious (my family) to the mundane (that mug of coffee in the morning) and anything in between (looking up at a magnificent moon in the evening). For this post however, I have to narrow it down to 5 and, off the top of my head, these are:

โญ Exercise โญ

The fountain of youth! I cannot do without exercise now that I’ve gotten used to it and have fallen in love with it. My body and mind crave it. It makes me feel grateful for being healthy and capable, and I am dosed with feel good hormones for the rest of the day. Truly, exercise gets me out of any funk I might be feeling at any moment.

โญ Music โญ

Mainstream top 40. Lounge. House. Spa. Meditation. Acoustic. Medieval. Instrumental. Beach… I’ve been blasting The Black Eyed Peas on my speakers lately and then shift to Medieval when I’m reading my medieval mysteries. I listen to House when I’m doing yoga. It’s crazy but it works for me. Music makes me happy! โค โค

As a gift to you, here’s the song that’s predicted to be the happiness theme song for 2016 ๐Ÿ™‚

โญ Kindness/Generosity โญ

The two are synonymous, I believe. An act of kindness gives my feet wings and even just seeing it or reading about it being done by others warms my heart. That’s why I watch the Ellen Degeneres show whenever I can because those surprises she doles out to unsuspecting people, they just make me want to swim from the chandelier (in a good way). LOL! XD XD

In my ‘confined’ state I am unable to do Random-Acts-Of-Kindness (RAOKs) directly, so I’ve taken to doing this via the games I play.ย  I’m currently obsessed with Seeker’s Notes: Hidden Mystery and I take great delight in helping my “friends” complete collections by gifting them with special items I have in surplus. The harder the item is to come by or build, the more excited I am to gift it ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

I’ve thought of knitting/crocheting for charity too but, I really prefer doing an act of kindness in person. It just gives the most satisfaction โค โค โค

โญ Crocheting/Knitting โญ

I am project oriented and I relish having a practical end-product at the end of my efforts. And if I can accomplish this with the least amount of equipment, then that’s just purrr-fect!

That is why crochet -and just very recently- knitting, appeals so much to me. The whole process is just so juicy! From choosing the project, the materials, the recipient and finally the making of the product itself. Yes, crochet and knitting definitely float my boat! ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€


โญ Choosing to be a SAHM โญ

I love it! Little to no stress. The luxury of time to take care of your family and yourself. I even love the luxury of “boredom” that comes with it because I can cure that with something that nourishes my soul, mind or body. It’s just the perfect setting to be so deliciously self-focused.

~ oOo ~

And now it’s time for me to choose 5 others for this happiness tag ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘

The beautiful Minaxi over at Gameplan Happily Ever After.

The inspirational Debbie of Forgivingjournal.

One of the earliest blogger friends I made here on WP, I call her Karla (but I don’t really know for sure!) who takes the prettiest pictures and blogs over at My Messy World.

The cheerful & witty Carlos of Thoughts of a Trainwrecked Pineapple.

And … I just realized I’m gonna choose 6 instead because I have these 2 new blogging friends I just can’t leave out ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

Yanti of New Lives and Opat of Handsy Craftsy. These lovely ladies are from Indonesia and they do not know (until now!) that they made me very happy when they responded to my meltdown post by inquiring about where I live in Indonesia and offering to be contacted if I ever should visit Jakarta โค โค โค (There’s just NO reason for me to sulk now, is there?) I’m just blessed like that ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

OK, that’s me.

But what about YOU? What makes YOU happy? Let me know in the comments section so I get more ideas for my happy-list ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’ž

Thank you for reading, and B-Happy! ๐Ÿง

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Share Your World 2016 #20


With your answers, please remember we are in the SYW world and which may not always match our reality.

When do you feel most connected with others?

Whenever I’m sharing a problem, a concern or anything that’s not positive or “happy” and I am listened to and acknowledged.

What daily habit would you like to introduce to your life?

Oh, I already have just earlier this week ๐Ÿ˜€ Oil pulling. And it’s mind-blowing! ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘

What one mini-little-adventure would you like to have in the coming week?

Hmmm … I have to think about this. Not in the mood for any adventures as I’ve been experiencing some insomnia and muscle soreness these past few days.

But how about an armchair adventure? ๐Ÿ™‚ I do have one in mind ๐Ÿ™‚

I really enjoy medieval mysteries and since I was looking to resurrect my reading habit I decided to download some ebooks on my Kindle. I’ve also found some really good Celtic/medieval music on YouTube and I’m thinking of playing medieval music while immersing myself in the stories. Can you spell awesome?! Hey! โค ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

List at least of things or events that changed your Life: It could be as simple as a book or meeting a certain person?

  1. meeting my husband
  2. getting married
  3. becoming a mom
  4. quitting the corporate world
  5. being an expat SAHM and discovering things about myself I never had the time to [discover] before

Bonus question: ย What are you grateful for from last week ~

The patience and love my little family has given me in light of my “meltdown” ๐Ÿ™‚ As well as the support and encouragement coming from YOU! โค โค โค

and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?ย 

Knitting lessons! Yay! ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘

~ oOo ~

~ oOo ~