Feel-Good Fridays, The Introvert Expat SAHM Diaries

The Sneaky Little Thing That’s Preventing Me From Finding A Job

I have this friend that is often the hapless beneficiary of my rants and confessions about the isolation of my life as an introvert expat SAHM (in a quiet, small city in a non-English speaking foreign country – sorry, I just somehow feel less maladjusted if I lay out the parameters like that πŸ™„).

For months now she has been passionately encouraging me to find work online. If not for anything but the mental exercise and the opportunity for communicating with more human beings.

I have been tempted many times – my resume is already polished, an online profile has been created, and feeble, half-hearted attempts at answering job postings have been initiated. But I always halt the process before it “gets too serious”.

And I don’t know what to think about the reason why. Sometimes I ask myself if the admission of which now certifies me as a majestic “bum” but the truth is – I have fallen in love with BEING IN THE NOW.

Being in the now – what does this mean?

Well to me it means asking myself at almost every juncture during the day “what do I feel like doing now?”.Β  Sometimes this means washing the dishes, or doing dance fitness videos, at other times learning something new or even just deciding to have tea while listening to the chatter of birds. It’s never the same and there’s no rhyme or reason to it.

But more often than not, it sends me off to bed at night with a feeling of serenity.

Turns out it’s really something that I have come to appreciate about being a SAHM (with no small children to take care of). And I’ve come to see it as perhaps a luxury only afforded to SAHMs (with no small people to take care of) – the freedom to spend the day however you want. The luxury of listening to the voice inside you and letting it be your guide πŸ€—

And I figured, if I had a job I would no longer have this luxury. And apparently it’s something I deem more precious at the moment than mental challenge and increased social contact.

And so I say to all SAHMs like me:


Enjoy it while it lasts! ❀


3 Day Quote Challenge: Day 3

It’s day 3, and the final entry for this challenge πŸ™‚ In true TGIF fashion I’ve chosen to highlight my love for the silly and humorous today and for me no other ‘thing’ (or group of things?) embodies this better than The Minions ❀ ❀


So please excuse me if I wallow in the shallow for this post – it’s all for a good laugh or, at least the promise of a smile on your face πŸ˜€

found on funnyminions.com
found on lovethispic.com

There are tonnes of funny Minion quotes out there I truly had trouble choosing. But the ones in this post also give you a glimpse into my personality so I think I’m good πŸ˜›

found on thefunnybeaver.com

Feel free to give me a link in the comments section to your favorite Minions quote if you have one πŸ™‚ ❀

Finally, the 3 blogger-friends I pass this challenge on to are:

Shirley of ShirleyFessel.com

Lindsay of LetterstoDutch

Lara of ArtByAnnabellaboobop

The rules of this challenge:

  1. Thank the person who invited you to join
  2. Post 1 or 3 quotes for 3 consecutive days
  3. Choose 3 other bloggers to share the love

And that is it for me today! πŸ˜€

Have a great weekend, y’all! ❀ ❀ ❀

Blogging, Fitness & Vanities

3 Day Quote Challenge: Day 2

For day 2 of this quote challenge I’ve decided to spotlight a favorite activity of mine, one I am grateful to be able to indulge in and one I intend to keep up for as long as I can: exercising to be fit ❀

As with anything, the desire to start something and commit to it – i.e. invest money, time and effort into something consistently and for the long haul – begins with the mind. Until I understood why I should exercise, that’s only when consistency happened:



Of course, there are times when life gets in the way and my exercise schedule is thrown out of whack or stops altogether. It’s usually not that easy to get back on track especially if I think about how long it will take to see results again but, this quote seems to always trump my impatience:

found on Pinterest

Then there are days I am doing a new exercise video and it doesn’t turn out as expected.Β  It might be too difficult or not enjoyable or some other reason. I can be easily discouraged by this and either stop or consider it a bad workout. I have to constantly remind myself that ~



So that’s me for today. Now it’s time for me to choose the next 3 blogger friends who will spread the quote-love πŸ™‚



Yanti/New Lives

Rules of this challenge:

  1. Thank the person who invited you to join
  2. Post 1 or 3 quotes for 3 consecutive days
  3. Choose 3 other bloggers to share the love

Visit back tomorrow for Day 3! ❀ πŸ˜€


3-Day Quote Challenge: Day 1

Some time ago this feisty blogger friend asked me to play the 3-Day Quote Challenge and, although not really a big fan of quotes, I chose to show up and have fun with it because – this is Emz and she’s got the power to do that. LOL! XD

Terima kasih/Salamat Emz! ❀

This will also be my 4th weekly challenge for April by the way. You can read all about that here, here and here.

The rules of this challenge are simple: thank your nominator, post 1 or 3 quotes for 3 consecutive days, and invite 3 other blogger friends to spread the love ❀ πŸ˜€

Quotes are so ubiquitous that their glamor is mostly lost on me. HOWEVER, I can’t deny the power just one serendipitous quote can have when it comes at just the right moment.

And then there is also this one amazing writer of children’s books that I adore so much, Dr. Seuss – you KNOW him, right? Who doesn’t?! πŸ˜€ Dr. Seuss’ quotes are so simple and straightforward and innocent and yet they always blow my mind with their profundity.

So I’d like to start this challenge with 3 of Dr. Seuss’ quotes that for me aptly convey the message of just being YOU – celebrating and honoring your uniqueness and knowing that you have every right to kick ‘arse’ on this earth because God said so ❀ ❀ ❀


Isn’t it amazing to BE YOU? πŸ˜€

Now it’s my turn to invite 3 other blogger friends to join the fun and today I’m very pleased to pick ~

Karin/Another Piece of Me

What I Know Now

Vitaly’s Daily Wisdom

More fun quotes tomorrow! ❀

Share Your World

Share Your World 2016 #9

by the sea

Have you done something you truly want to do today?

Yes. I’ve finally found out the names of the 2 lovely cleaning ladies [that come to our house every day] by asking them myself! (In my pidgin Indonesian). They are Ibu Ingah and Ibu Supiati. “Ibu” means mother or madam in Indonesian.

Which reminds me of one funny incident when I was just a few days old here in Indonesia: One day coming home from a morning walk I hear a man behind me say “pagi,’bu” and felt myself blush. I did not know the meaning of the word “Ibu” at the time and honestly thought the man said “good morning, boo” and well … you know what that means! LOL!

Don’t worry, I’m wiser now.

I also used to think Indonesians were just so kewl because they ended most of their sentences with “yeah”. As in, “tungguh (wait), yeah?”Β  At the time I did not know that “yes” was “iya” generally shortened to “ya” . XD XDΒ 

So really, I cannot stress enough how important it is to learn at least the basics of the foreign language you are going to immerse yourself in. Go ahead, you can go “duh!” on me now XD

Now where was I ….?

What can you help the world with?

I have no idea. And then simultaneously a lot of ideas that seem too trivial or grandiose upon closer examination πŸ™„

People (office mates) used to tell me they liked talking to me because I was such an encourager. They’d be in doubt about something and I’d help them feel better and more confident about themselves. So I guess I’ll start there. Yeah, why not?

If life was β€˜just a bowl of cherries’… which fruit other than a cherry would you be..?

I’m not that fond of fruit really so this is a difficult question πŸ™„

I also think that the whole point of choosing the cherry to mean “life is pleasant” is because it’s easy to pop in your mouth. I mean, you don’t have to peel, slice or remove anything before being able to eat it. It even comes with a handy stem, usually. And cherries are sweet and they have that beautiful color too. I’m over analyzing this, am I?

Can I still be a cherry, please? XD

Quotes List: At least three of your favorite quotes?

Ahhh, I’m also really not into quotes. But I can offer you a personal “template” instead.

Whenever I beat myself up in some way, like say I call myself “cranky” in my head and I want to stop that nasty voice I go “cranky is as cranky does” — and that is enough to remind me it’s not me (the person), it’s how I’m acting.Β  And as such I can also change this right away.

It can be applied to anything too: “lazy is as lazy does”, “careless is as careless does”, “happy is as happy does”. It works for me every time πŸ™‚

Bonus question: Β What are you grateful for from last week ~

I’m very grateful (and stoked!) that this post still keeps getting responses ❀ ❀ ❀

If you haven’t yet, please chime in!

~ and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

A new fantasy book series πŸ™‚ (Squeal!)

~ oOo ~

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Click on the badge to join the fun! πŸ™‚

~ oOo ~

Feel-Good Fridays

Laugh. Intentionally.


Last weekend, along with the rest of the world, I sat shocked and grieving in front of the TV listening to news reports of the terrorist attacks on Paris. My heart was heavy. My throat felt constricted. No words were spoken, but my small household was depressed.

In an unconscious effort to experience some emotional relief & diversion, I channel-surfed and came across the movie Nacho Libre starring Jack Black.

The sunny scenery, the innocent theme song and the peaceful setting of an orphanage in Oaxaca, Mexico quickly drew me in and became the diversion I was seeking. Before long “Ignacio’s” and “Esqueleto’santics had me laughing out loud. Hearing me, my husband and daughter joined me on the sofa and started enjoying the film too.

And just like that we could all breathe easy again.

This week’s feel-good Friday post will be just a short reminder for all of us of the gift of laughter.

It costs nothing but gives so much, to ourselves and the people we share it with. It does not erase whatever we might be grieving for, but it gives us lightness and healing.


They say a day without laughter is a day wasted.  Make your soul dance and schedule time to laugh out loud now. It can be as simple as watching a funny movie ❀


Written for Writeful Mind’s Feel-Good Friday blogging challenge.